Kendra Wilkinson Admits She’s Been Almost ‘Celibate’ Since 2018 Divorce From Hank Baskett
The former Playboy bunny said she ‘stayed away from sex’ after ‘shaming’ herself, in a new interview.
Kendra Wilkinson, 38, hasn’t had much sex since her divorce from Hank Baskett in 2018, she revealed in a new interview. The former Playboy model shares two children with her ex-husband, whom she married in 2009, including Hank Jr., 14, and Alijah Mary, 9, and has focused on co-parenting with him since their split. Their divorce was sparked by cheating allegations against Hank, who later admitted he “messed up” during the marriage.
“It’s been so long since I’ve had sex — it’s been so long that I’ve had any,” Kendra told PEOPLE about her current life. “Because I shamed myself on my sexuality too. Everyone sees me as a sex icon, so I shamed myself. I shamed myself, and I stayed away from anything sex. I almost became celibate.”
“Right now, I’m focused on my kids, the love that they’re receiving from me and life, and raising them — and self-love,” she continued. “It’s all about self-love and self-care. If I’m not caring about myself, nobody else will. So the most important thing is focusing on my mental health.”
Kendra, who’s also been open about her struggles with depression and anxiety, went on to say that she doesn’t hold any grudges against Hank, despite the marital issues they had. “I am a lover. So if I love you, even as a human being, you don’t owe me anything, but I will love you through your problem,” she explained. “I know myself, I can forgive. And I want to see Hank do well in life. He’s working so hard — he’s putting so much effort into his business and being a great dad.”
“What he did in my marriage doesn’t define him to me today,” she added. “That’s not who he is to me today. Today I see him as an amazing co-parent, I see him as an amazing father. And I’m so blessed, so beyond blessed, to have him as a co-parent.”
When it comes to blame in the divorce, Kendra also sees it as equal ground. “I [also] made mistakes in the marriage, and we both signed up for a reality show with our marriage,” she said. “And we never got a chance to truly know who we were.”
“I can’t go back in time and rewire history, but I’m here to move forward in my life and upward,” she also shared. “And live a good life. That’s what I’m here for.”
The doting mother admitted her “amazing kids” bring joy to her life now and raising them is a way for her to look forward to the future. “They’re good, solid human beings who are aiming to achieve life,” she gushed. “And I’ve so much good in front of me. It’s only the beginning for my life. I feel like I just pressed a rebirth. I feel like I’m being dealt new cards. Like what’s in front of me now?”
“I’m hopeful, I’m excited,” she added. “Whatever that storm, that hurricane or whatever the hell I was a part of, is in the far distance now. And so the only thing I can really do is rebuild that, rebuild and focus on what I do have and how to nurture what I do have, and enjoy my life.”