How To Get On The ‘Bachelor’: Producer Elan Gale Reveals The 1 Key You Need

You’ve probably had at least one friend who’s always wanted to explore the world of the Bachelor or Bachelorette — The lavish dates, the chance at love, the friendships, and all that is Bachelor Nation. If not, maybe you, yourself have wanted to give it a try. But, what does it actually take to be the Bachelor or Bachelorette? We can help you out with the help of the franchise’s executive producer, Elan Gale, 34, who stopped by HollywoodLife.com to chat about his new book, You’re Not That Great (but Neither is Anyone Else) — An interesting self-help read that reveals a nontraditional, but effective way to channel success into your life by actually focusing on the negativity in your life.

Here’s what Gale suggests is the way to help you fulfill your dreams by focusing on your flaws and turning them into your motivator. “By acknowledging your flaws, you can then focus on them and actually see what they are, change them,” he explains. “There’s a lot of negative emotions that we all go through on a regular basis — fear, sadness, insecurity, jealousy, rage. You can call them negative, but I think they’re just emotions,” says Gale, who thinks his book is just what the self-help section of any book store needs.

He continued, “I don’t think negatives are inherently good or bad. And then those feelings are full of energy, and you can either convince yourself that you don’t feel them, you can convince yourself that they aren’t important to you, or you can use them to try to improve yourself.”

As for what motivates Gale from his own flaws? — He says “rage” is a big one. “I’m a really angry person. Just about everything [angers me] … The world makes me angry. Police brutality makes me angry. People being unfair to each other makes me angry. Traffic makes me angry.” And, by confronting these negativities and flaws, Gale says you can improve them to make your life better.

“It’s really the concept that people are inherently flawed and bad, and that if they are able to kind of confront those flaws, they can actually improve them, as opposed to simply living with flaws forever,” he says. “Now you’ll always have flaws, but you can work on individual ones one at a time, try to get better, try to make your life better, or you can feel good about yourself. I think they tend to be mutually exclusive.”

Now, to this Bachelor buzz. While there’s many factors that go into being selected as the show’s main attraction, Gale says there is one thing this person needs, and that’s to be versatile. Gale admits that this person needs to appeal many people, demographics and personalities. “You do [have to be everyone’s taste],” he tells HollywoodLife.com. “That’s the thing,” he says, explaining,”Maybe not everyone’s [taste], but you have to kind of appeal to a wide demographic.”

While Gale is behind the camera as executive producer of the immensely popular franchise, we suggested that he’d be a great fit as the show’s Bachelor. However, he doesn’t think so. I’m a very specific kind of guy, and so I need a very specific kind of person,” he admits, backing up his previous point that the right person for the job needs to appeal to more than one type of suitor. Luckily, he’s found that in his girlfriend, Castle star, Molly Quinn.

Gale actually revealed that his relationship with Quinn grew stronger through his new book — You’re Not That Great (but Neither is Anyone Else) — because it helped her to understand him more. In the book, Gale, with the help of his friends Crazy Ex-Girlfriend‘s Rachel Bloom and comic Iliza Shlesinger, goes through stories of failure, which ultimately lead to triumph and success. Despite being in the self-help section of any book destination, Gale drifts away from typical self-help techniques, suggesting success and happiness in life can be reached through negativity.

However, like the ideal Bachelor or Bachelorette, according to Gale, this book appeals to all types of people. So, you don’t have to stress if you’re the happy-go-lucky, positive vibes type of person. “This can be applied to not just people like me, but to more normal, happy people who have nice lives, and who feel good about themselves,” Gale explains. “I think my girlfriend has a really healthy self-esteem. She’s not self-loathing in the way that I am, but I think she still finds value in the thought processes that come from it. It’s nothing more than understanding other people.”

You’re Not That Great (But Neither is Anyone Else) is available now!